Reasons Why Men Dump Women

However, before a relationship comes to the point of break-up there are a prolonged series of red flags. The woman must learn to identify the red flags that are the resultant effect of her behavior and try and eliminate these red flags in order to save the relationship. Below, we have written down few reasons why men dump women. Read out to find the reasons and brush away these reasons in case you don’t want to end up being single and lonely.

You don’t Listen

Many women have this strange ideology that they’re always right and never listen to their partner. When you love talking too much you must even be ready to listen to your partner and take his opinion once in a while. It is not a case of black or white or right or wrong. However, every individual has a voice or an opinion. If it is you deciding everything in a relationship then often it might seem that it is you in a relationship with yourself. So, stop prioritizing yourself too much and let him speak. Give him the requisite attention and listen to him calmly.

You make a Relationship a Family Affair

The relationship is not a family affair. Whatever happens between the two of you ought to stay only between the two of you. You’re both matured, adults. You don’t need your family to resolve every little argument or conflict between the two of you. You might need a sister or a friend’s advice once in a blue moon however in case if you discuss every fight with your family or friends then there might be a friction between you and your partner.  Moreover, avoid making your family speak to your partner in order to resolve the fight. Keep things personal and try and resolve your issues yourself.

You Drag the Guy Everywhere

Every relationship needs time together to nurture and grow. However, in every relationship space is also important. You don’t have to drag your partner everywhere. If you’re going out with your gang of girls why do you want to drag him in this? There is a vast difference between the topics of discussion between a man and a woman. If there are 5 women talking about girly things a man will naturally get bored and feel awkward. So, taking him out once in a while with your set of friends is okay but don’t push and nag him too much for this.

It is a Relationship and not a Prison Sentence

No woman No! You just can’t go on and on dominating your partner and telling him things to do or not to do. Men are adults and have enough brains to decide on their own. You don’t have to force your opinion on every little thing in their life. Do not try to drive your man according to your helm and wishes. Giving an opinion is okay but do not force your opinion. Moreover, never restrict your partner to spend time with friends and family. He has a life beyond you and he’ll want to live that. Do not enter into his personal space else you’ll find yourself being badly dumped.

Independence is Great but only to Some Extent

Now, this is a tricky thing. One, men expect the woman in the relationship to be independent so that she can cater to her bills and her decisions. Two, too much independence coming from a woman might seem offensive to the man. You don’t have to brag and make your partner feel that you’ll be okay without him and he’s not doing anything beyond providing you sex. This will rip off his male ego and men certainly, don’t like that. Take his opinion on little issues, let him pay willingly for you (don’t make this a routine), let him do little things to make you feel loved and special.

Don’t Bring up things from the Past

Everyone makes mistakes at some point or the other. However, the idea is to forgive and forget. If you cannot forgive a mistake then you must end the relationship then and there. However, if you choose to forgive that mistake don’t bring that up every time there is a fight or argument. Get things off your memory and remember there is no future in the past. So, forgive and forget and move on towards a happy relationship. If you repeatedly mention about his mistakes in the past and take him to the guilt trip it is bound to have a negative impact on your relationship.

You don’t take the effort to make him feel special

It is true that women like being loved and pampered. However, men too enjoy the attention. So, make him feel special. Try doing things for him like he does for you. Men love food, so take him out on a romantic dine out or cook his favorite meal and arrange a candle light dinner. Gift him small things that will let him know that you love him and think about him as much as he thinks about you. If you only expect without any payback a man will feel disappointed that his efforts are not reciprocated and will look out for someone who would reciprocate his efforts.

The Last Words

These are some common reasons why men tend to dump women they are with. Women try to take over men most of the times and this is the major reason why men dump women. Women must try to prevent fights over small issues and give proper time to their men.

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The Different Stages of Break-Up

However, what is not normal is staying in a confused, lonely and sad state. As many people say break-up has several stages and below we have outlined some of the stages of break-up. Don’t get too hard on yourself and remember this too shall pass. Read below to find out the 7 stages of break-up.

Shock

It is believed that shock is the natural process of the body that indeed works as body’s natural protection in order to fight the pain that you’re undergoing. When a relationship ends, it gets hard for most people to deal with the break-up and things that will follow post that. You might always feel scared and solitary. This might be followed by a state of disbelief. You might not be able to believe that the relationship where you have invested so much is over and there is nothing left to cling on to. This state of absolute disbelief might last for a few days, weeks, months or even longer, depending upon how emotionally attached you were to your partner. You might even undergo a sudden loss of sleep and diet.

What to do to fight shock?

• Give yourself a calming therapy. Go for long walks and spend time with family and friends.

What not to do?

• Don’t freak out. Things will settle soon.

Denial

Denial is when you refuse to accept that your relationship is over and continue to restore the feelings you had for your partner. The thinking behind this is if you don’t accept that a relationship is over you can still go on with the relationship with a false hope of reuniting with your ex-mate. In most cases, people tend to repeatedly call, text, e-mail or even stalk their partner on social media believing it is normal to still know the whereabouts of your partner. People do this in order to put the heartbreak on hold.

What to do when in denial state?

Take help of a friend and try talking to them about your fears and discomfort. You can even write about it on a blog to speak about the pent up pain and misery.

What not to do?

Don’t try to minimize the situation. You must not think that it is not necessary to find ways to deal with a break-up.

Isolation

Once you break-up with a long, steady partner you tend to believe that everything around you is over and you end up feeling isolated. You believe life around you has ceased to exist and there is absolutely nobody to open up to. Spending time alone is okay but isolating yourself from everyone is what will emotionally break you. There is a fair chance when you sit all alone you might rewind and replay several memories and good times that you have spent with your partner. These memories might even bring you happiness. However, this happiness will be momentary. You need to realize that to live with this momentary happiness you’re getting yourself away from the reality. This might even get your thoughts unorganized and scattered.

What to do?

• Get yourself a spa, a facial and all the relaxation therapies to look and feel good. If you feel good, you’ll be happy inside and feel confident to go out and socialize.

What not to do?

• Do not think that nobody will ever love you again or you will never be able to love anybody in the same way. This will only lead to self-pity and dishearten you even more.

Anger

Anger is the resultant of pain. You experience a transformation from sad to raging mad. You might blame your partner for everything. You might end up burning his pictures, abuse him, want to hit him in public and ridicule and insult him. There might be cases where you find yourself indulging in self-talk. You might even scold and ridicule yourself for being with your ex. Passing on the blame here might seem as a sensible choice for you. Conclusively you might end up shouting on every little thing.

What to do?

• Try writing about it or feel the anger and talk about it. You might involve a trusted person to talk about it to heal sooner.

What not to do?

• Avoid messing things up with your anger. Don’t put yourself in awkward situations because of this.

Bargaining

Now, this is a stage where you find out ways to get your ex back. You indulge into prayers, beg him to come back, and many times you even belittle yourself while trying to get him back. People even think and analyze what caused the break-up and try to brush that reason off in order to get back on their ex. If there is a particular habit of yours that your partner despised and you try and eliminate that habit then there is a fair chance you might be able to get him back. However, never try to compromise on your own self-respect to make a relationship work out.

What to do?

• Create a to-do list or a list of your hobbies and things that you always wanted to do in order to distract yourself from thoughts of him.

What not to do?

• Never try changing yourself just for the sake of your ex. If it is a positive change then yes otherwise it is a strict no to even think about changing yourself.

Depression

This is a common phase after every painful activity. Never make yourself believe that you won’t be able to live without him. Life never stops for anyone. You had a life going perfectly okay before him, it will be okay (it is bound to be okay) even after him. Do not get the negativity in you. You might not want to get out of bed, you might keep your room dark, you might not want to go out, etc. These are all common signs of depression. Fight these signs. Get over them.

What to do?

• Go out, meet new people, make new friends and enjoy your life.

What not to do?

• Never opt for rebounds. Meeting new people doesn’t mean you have to indulge in new relationships. Give yourself time to move on from your past only then think of a new relationship or a new boyfriend. If you rush into a new relationship before moving on from the past, chances are even the new relationship might not work out and you might feel completely broken and shattered.

Acceptance

Accept that the relationship is over. Agreed that the relationship with your partner was your daily dose of happiness however now you need to accept and reflect on the fact that it is over. The sooner you accept that it is never going to be same, the better it will be for you to move on. Until you accept that it is done and dusted you will never be able to move on in your life. So, accept this bitter truth with a pinch of salt and begin recreating your life bereft him.

What to do?

• Celebrate little things in life and indulge in positive things. Get yourself enrolled in some hobby or a course. Find happiness for yourself outside the relationships.

What not to do?

• Brush off all the negative things in life. Once, in a while, you might feel the need to talk to him or cry your heart out. If talking to your ex might make you weak, avoid it completely. Rather call your friend and speak your heart out. Crying is a natural process and will make you feel lighter. So don’t shy away from shedding a tear or two.

Final Words

Every relationship has some happy and sad memories annexed to it. However, when a relationship gets over one person might feel completely broken and saddened. This is normal and so are the stages of break-up that you might feel and undergo after a relationship ceases to exist. Thus, read the stages and make things simplified in order to deal with a relationship that is over.

Note: This content has been written in the context of a girl who is suffering from different phases of the break-up. The same thing applies to the boys too.

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