How to find you are in an Abusive Relationship?

What I don’t understand is that why do woman even let this roll in a vicious circle? You should be emotionally and mentally strong to walk out of abusive relationship. The more important thing is, why even get into an abusive relationship? There are some signs and signals that will assure that the relationship that you’re getting into is going to be a potentially abusive one. It is important for a woman to identify these signs and signals in order to avoid getting into an abusive relationship. Here in this article, we have come up with few signs of a potentially abusive partner or relationship. It is important for woman to take note of these signs in order to keep themselves safe and happy.

He pushes Immediate Commitment

When you meet a guy and he immediately showcases keen involvement and says things like, ‘I have never felt the way, I feel with you’ then there is definitely something to be wary about. Many times, you might have even been pressurized to get into an immediate commitment just after a few meetings.

He is Way too Jealous

Jealousy is good if it is in appropriate quantity. However, if your partner is overly jealous and tries to control your every action or move then sure there is a problem on the board. The immediate signs of jealousy can be seen from his actions such as he calls too much, asks too many questions, restricts you from going out or visits unexpectedly.

He is Controlling

If a guy tries to control your every action or comes across as way too dominating and controlling then he’s surely not the one. Demanding for your alternate keys, checking mileage of your vehicle, tracking your phone calls, keeping a track of your call logs and SMS logs are some of the signs that he’s extremely controlling and dominating.

Unrealistic Expectations

He holds unrealistic expectations like making you quit your job for him or asking you to leave your city for him or anything similar then there are chances that you’re putting yourself into an abusive relationship.

There is Isolation

He tries to cut your private time with family, friends, and relatives and puts you in a complete isolation. You might find yourself talking to him even if you don’t feel like talking at that moment.

Blame Game

He would either blame it on you or some third person – boss, family, friend, etc for anything done wrong to you.

He makes everyone else responsible for his actions

Is he upset? It is his job! Is he angry? It is a family issue. There will always be somebody to blame for his feelings.

He’s Hypersensitive

He gets offended easily or he takes just simple things as a personal insult.

He’s cruel to Animals and Children

Often the men who are abusive and practice violence in a relationship have a special hatred for animals and children. They do not think twice before hitting a child or throwing stones at the animal. He may even exploit kids and animals.

He is ruff while Having Sex

He might be rough while having sex. He might be hard to you and might hit you or spank you with an intention to hurt you. He might even throw you down or hold you without your consent. He might even engage you or fantasize to engage you in sex with a stranger or a third party. He might even speak about his rape fantasies.

He is Abusive and says Cruel Things

Often a partner, who abuses, says cruel and upsetting things or degrades you or calls you by ugly names. He might even say some vulnerable and sensitive things about your past.

Gender Biased

He expects you to obey him and be at his service every time.

He has Mood Swings

You’ll see sudden mood swings in his behavior. One moment he’ll be angry and upset whereas the other moment he’ll be all lovey dovey and romantic.

He has a Sour Past

He might have admitted of having beaten his past girlfriends or partners. Despite beating them in the past, he would say it was their mistake and they provoked him.   

He must Have threat you of Violence

Often he must have said evil statements such as, “Shut up or I’ll kill you” or “One more word and you’re dead.” These are not just regular statements but signs that there must be worse awaited from his side.

The Last Words

Above, we have listed 15 important signs that show that a relationship which you’re getting into is a potentially abusive relationship. It is strictly advisable to keep yourself away from such relationships.

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How to Celebrate Eid with your Loved Ones: Top 5 Ideas

Eid festival celebration in India is on a huge scale. With the rise in brotherhood and peace between people, now no festival is only theirs or only ours. All festivals are ‘OURS’. Both festivals include prayer and charity towards the less fortunate and also it is an occasion for celebrating with friends and family. So here are top 5 Eid celebration ideas with your family –

Go to an Old Age Home

Celebrate Eid with family by buying sweets for them or going for shopping but do not forget that there are few people with no families. On such pious festival everyone should feel happy. So simply buy some sweets or make some Siwayian and make sure that no one feels alone.

Family comes First

Sometimes we get so busy earning for our family that we forget to give them time. This Eid simply be with your family for the whole day. Teach your children or grandchildren importance of Eid. Cook with your life partner. Give some time to your parents. Eat with them. Eid celebration at home starts with you.

Forgive and Forget

Eid cannot be complete if you hold a grudge against a family member or family. This time, be the kind-hearted person and forget the mistakes made by your loved ones. Eid is meant to bring joy & happiness, and without your loved ones near you there can be no joy.

Go to an Orphanage

As Eid is a festival of happiness then every child deserves it. I know not all families are rich. So do the charity according to your budget. Those who are rich enough go to orphanages with sweets and new clothes. Nothing would make “Allah” happier than to see his special children are being taken care of. Those who are not so rich simply cook a decent meal and distribute it in small quantities amongst the children with love and care. It is the best way to celebrate Eid. This also makes your children realize the importance of things they have and make them thankful towards Allah for providing all that they have.

Give Out to the Poor

If you are comfortable in your house and celebrating Eid happily with your family then consider yourself blessed. You should thank Allah to have given you enough. There are some less fortunate than you. So now this is your moral duty to make someone smile. It is not easy to make everyone happy but if you just are able to feed one poor person and make that person smile then your Eid is complete.

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Best Ways to Celebrate Father’s Day without Father

Thinking of celebrating father’s day after death of father is a brilliant idea to handle the situation. This helps you cherish the memories of your father and to tackle that day with happiness. It also makes you feel happy about the fact that you helped others and made them happy too. Father’s day after dad died is difficult and only a daughter can make it easy. So if you are thinking how to celebrate father’s day without father then below mentioned ideas will help you.

Old Age Home

Want to pay respect to all the things your father did for you? Go to an old age home and make the day special for all the dads over there who feel left out from their children. Buy some fruits and a cake. Go over there with some balloons and make a day of it. If you are thinking “I am missing my dad” then this is the right way to celebrate for you.

Family Dinner

Wondering how should you be celebrating father’s day without dad? Take your family out for a special dinner. This helps you handle the pain that he is not there with you as you are looking out for the family which is basically his job. You are taking his responsibilities. In this way you pay him respect and also you handle the situation correctly.

Decorate his Room

If you are in the dilemma of “what should I do on first father’s day without my dad?” then just go ahead and buy something that he always wanted but could never buy for himself and just place it somewhere in his room. It is always difficult on the first time and you are confused as to how to handle it. So you know you cannot celebrate the day with ease so this is the best way to do something on this special day.

Girl’s Childhood Home

Go to a girl’s orphanage and celebrate with them. For a father his most precious treasure so just go ahead and celebrate with those unfortunate girls who could not see their father’s special love. Stop thinking about how you have lost dad and cherish the fact that at least were able to feel his special love.

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How to Deal with Father in Law after Marriage

For boys impressing their father’s in law is very important as the happiness of their wives lies in that. Every woman is her father’s princess so for every girl, it is very important that their father loves her husband. So it is the men’s duty (whether they like it or not) to impress their father in law. So here are the best 5 ways in which you can impress your father in law.

Respect

The most basic and the most important way is to show respect. To deal with a difficult father in law is to show him the respect that he deserves (and secretly expects from you). You have to show him that you respect the way he was strong whenever his daughter or his family needed him. The way he brought up his daughter.

Make his Princess Your Queen

To make your father in law love you is to take care of his daughter better than anyone. You have to show him that daddy’s little princess is a queen now. You have to prove that you are worthy of her and can keep her happy her entire life. You have to make it clear that you are the best choice for her (especially if it is a love marriage).

Patience

Fathers are possessive about their daughters. So sometimes they tend to be rude to hide the fact that they are scared that their daughter is with someone new. They best way to deal with a rude father in law is showing patience and slowly removing and clearing any doubt he has regarding you. Be patient and prove it to him that you are no stranger and you understand his daughter’s need just as well as he does.

Importance

Another thing you can try is to give importance to things he cares about. Say the most he is concerned about is her medical condition then you should pay attention to it too (although she may be completely healthy). There may be family customs and tradition that you might think are boring but are important to him so do them with dedication.

Spread Happiness

Always try to bring a smile on your father in law’s face. For that; doing funny stuff, maintain a jolly environment at home, crack jokes, make delicious food, etc. These tips to impress your father in law may seem boring or may take time but they are effective and results are positive.

Final Words

A man’s father in law gives him the most precious person in his life to him, his daughter. That daughter would change your entire life. So keeping your father in law and your wife happy is the best you can do for them.

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