Honesty is the Best Policy

Being honest with your parents is the best way you could do this. Indian mentality is not so open about homosexual weddings so it may take some time for your parents to understand so you have to be patient with them. Even you have to understand their situation. They may be shocked or even cry about it but you have to be strong and wait for them to understand you.

Be Firm on Your Decision

Emotional blackmail is a tool that we use on our parents and sometimes they use it on us. So when you tell your parents about your lesbian relationship story, you may face some emotional blackmail by your parents about how society would disapprove of your relationship and how relatives would make fun of you but you have to be firm about your decision. If you give in you will not only ruin your life but your partner’s too.

Take Your Partner with You

Introduce your partner too your parents. This shows your parents that you are not delusional or influenced by someone else but this is completely your decision. Same sex marriages are not supported in India so this decision of yours will not only change your life but your parents too. So you have to give time for them to understand and by meeting your partner they can see all the qualities you see in your partner.

Be Straightforward

If you are into the dilemma as to how do I tell my parents that I am a lesbian then the there is nothing you can do but to be straight forward with them. This removes all the doubts your parents might have. You may have to face some anger or dialogues such as ‘Nazar Lag Gayi Hai Isko Kisi Ki’ or ‘Kisi Chudail Ne Fasa Lia Isey’ but you have to make sure that they understand that this is who you are.

Make them Feel Your Happiness

All parents want their child to be happy. So you have to make them see that the only way you can be happy is by being with the girl you love. Lesbian wedding is what you desire. Who knows that when they are convinced you might get some lesbian relationship tips from your mother?

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Tell Him

The first step is to straight away; tell him. Stop thinking of indirect ways to tell your brother you are on periods.You should not be embarrassed in telling him about your periods. Instead just go ahead and say to him that “Brother my periods started.” or “Brother I am having a girl problem”.

Trust Him

He is your brother. You have shared all his secrets and told your all secrets with him. Now just because of typical Indian mentality you are feeling ashamed of telling your natural problem with him? That should not be the way. Brother Sister bonding is very special and is much stronger. So just trust this bonding and tell him.

Ask for His Help

Your periods have started. That is going to make a stain visible to all. Now no one carries a pad to movie theatre so what are you going to do? Call a female friend and wait for her which may take hours? Or simply ask your brother to help you. Do not hesitate and think how to tell about periods?

Keep Things Clear

Do not think of “Should I tell my brother I have my periods?” Just simply inform him that your periods started and you need him to get you a packet of pads. If he is an elder brother then he already knows about periods. If he is younger but capable of understanding then simply tell him.

Stay Free

Indian mindset about periods needs to be changed. The mindset which makes it a taboo for a girl to talk about her periods is simply ridiculous. This change has to be brought by the girls only. Girls have to be open minded about this. Periods are natural and they are the process that in future will make a woman into a mother.

Final Say

Brothers have to be supportive too. You should not fell ashamed or hesitate in helping your sister or even talking about it. Everyone should understand that periods is simply a biological process with no relations to Gods or any of the mis-beliefs that are being followed. Break free the rules that the society has set for girls. Only girls can do it.

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What Society Thinks about Lesbianism?

The actual question is- is it really a question that needs a black & white segregation, in accordance with the social point of view? No, is the answer. It is a choice that is personal just like, anyone being a vegetarian or non-vegetarian, no third person has any right to point a finger at what you enjoy on your plate. Still all around the world, this negative mentality about homosexuality being a curse has been in our society for so long that in the modern times we are not able to approve of it. Today, a lot of educated nations have come out with supporting laws towards the various criminal activities that have taken place against homosexuals. In Africa, the practice of ‘correction rape’ by many older societies must be condemned by every human, no matter what you think about homosexuals.

Homosexuality in Medieval Periods

Even in the medieval period the men were allowed to have a homosexual relation and were not seen as evil or the condemned ones. Many of the great Greek rulers have been noted to have a homosexual reaction in their lifetime – “Alexander” being the well-known name in this.

For men, it was fair, whereas when women practiced it, she was never seen with respect or dignity. If a woman was known to have an attraction towards the same sex she is immediately treated as an outcast in the society. Why are women always bound by the social norms and regulations? Don’t they have an equal right to choose their partner? They also have a right to be happy and decide who to be with.

What does Religionist say about Lesbianism?

The religious bodies all around the world have deemed it as a curse or a sign of the devil. These outdated mindsets and social norms have led to a lot of homosexuals living a life of misery and discontent as they fear of being abolished from society for this. Most of the people see them as a social joke or disgrace. It has to stop. These people are as normal as you and me, the only difference is that they want to have a sexual relationship according to their choice.

What Doctors Say About Lesbianism?

Doctors have said it out loud and clear that it is perfectly a normal thing and not a mental disease. The doctors also stated that the health risk that haunts these couples is that of depression and stress, more than anything else. The factors behind this are obviously social alienation, discrimination, rejection by loved ones, abuse, and violence. The other sexually transmitted diseases are also a topic of concern but the depression takes more lives of this minority of women than other diseases.

The numbers of lesbians and homosexuals around the world are increasing. However, this may be a little alarming issue as many youngsters are adopting this lifestyle just for the sake of experimenting. It has been reported that in such cases the depression and stress levels are really high and some of them are leading to suicide or total social disconnect. This experimental behavior is not right. It should be something coming from your inner self and your body & mind should feel great about this lifestyle.

Does Lesbianism Prevail in Medieval Time?

Another point of view is that earlier such relations were hidden and never came out in the picture but now due to a little increase in social acceptance, the things are not generally hidden. This has made a lot of individuals to come out and tell that they have same sex sexual attractions. In U.S. alone, more than 30% of the population accepted of being in a same sex relation after the acceptance of lesbianism by Federal Government. The survey has now helped in lowering the cases of violence and bullying towards such individuals by others. It should be a global effort to make it possible that people of same sex should not be abused in any way and treated as equals in society.

As a society, we should start by at least looking towards the people who are lesbian and homosexuals with a mutual respect. Those who are open about talking on this topic should try and have some hearty talks with the lesbian couple or individuals to give them a social connect and happiness they deserve. A lot of help groups have now taken the initiative to counsel such individuals. The first initiative though is in hands of the parents. The cases of children being disowned by families in such cases are regular. This has to stop, as it is the first seed of depression that stays with homosexuals all their life and keeps hurting them over and over again.

We should move towards making a better society where all individuals are seen according to their behavior and intellect and not the sexual preferences they make.

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Can Indian Girl wear a Bikini on Beaches?

Weirdest thing is though that women from foreign lands can comfortably wear modern clothes like bikini in our country and are safe and on the same beach if Indian girls roam in bikinis they face molestation or verbal abuse.

If some known watches me (Kisi Janne wale ne Dekh lia toh)?

The biggest concern for any girl is that what if someone who knows her sees her like that? Thanks to Indian mentality girls are more concerned about relatives or neighbors than about their own family. All that gossip they spread around, the judgments they pass over you and when all that reaches your family in completely twisted way, nothing can be worse.

Backwardness

Many Indians are still uneducated. So in the name of Indian rituals and traditions they still follow many misbeliefs. Biggest amongst them is that women should always be covered. They still believe in pallu system. Females should even cover their faces and in front of these people the talk about bikinis is like giving them a heart attack.

Eve Teasing

One of the most common of problems in India that women face is eve teasing. Indian girls on beaches wearing bikinis already know this very well. Constant staring, being followed, vulgar comments, deliberately trying to make any physical contact are just few amongst the line of horrors. Any girl would want to avoid that. Eve teasing still exists because half the girls just ignore it and the few who dare to answer back many a time find no support. Instead people blame them for wearing such clothes.

Judgmental Thinking

People who have nothing better to do will go around passing their judgments on others. When someone tries to fight back they are said to be showing feminism. When Indian girls wearing bikinis are seen they are directly considered prostitutes. It is directly assumed that they are doing this to show off their bodies to men and they are in desperate need of attention.

Figure

The biggest stereotype is that only women with good figure can wear bikinis. Many of healthy girls are just thinking “Can I wear a bikini on Indian beaches?” Women from different countries are comfortable in wearing bikinis no matter their size. While here in India figure is what decides whether or not you should wear a bikini and not the person’s choice.

“Women it is your body, so only you can decide what do you want to wear? So is it right to wear a bikini on beaches in India is a question that only you can answer.”

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