Why I want to Marry Her – Crossing the Barriers

I love her and I want to marry her. According to me, this is the sole reason which is enough to marry a girl. The religion can’t separate the loving birds. My love is real and I think no barrier can stop us to unite. We will surely fly one day by breaking all the stereotypes and taboos.

My Inner Conscience says ‘I Want To’

I am a Hindu boy and hail from a staunch conservative Hindu Brahmin family where culture and traditions hold a very high place. I have lost my heart to a beautiful and an amazing girl who completes my life and most significantly brings a smile on my face in all odds. She follows Mohammad and lives a different culture and tradition but my feelings for her are irrefutably above these. I was always aware of the struggles that lie ahead of because of the irrational Indian mentality yet I wanted us to happen!

My Move to Conquer the Legal Hurdle

The conflict between Hindus and Muslims have been reigning the social rages for decades and my decision to marry a Muslim girl will only worsen the situation in our families. But our love is all decked up to battle the odds and settle for a peaceful and love-filled future. We are seeking for legal help and information on inter religion marriage law in India so that we can be legally secured.

An Equal-equal Share!

It is a known fact that the religious beliefs and culture of Hindus and Muslims are widely different and people inherit their religious values right since childhood. This makes it difficult to adapt a new religion and culture all of a sudden after marriage. The mindset needs to get altered and religious beliefs often go for a toss. It will get pretty difficult for a Muslim girl to adopt the new relationship, culture and religious practices of Hinduism. The different Pujas, Fasting and a lot more will certainly make life difficult for her. All I wish she can resist this religious transformation and respect the change.

At the same time, I swore to myself to make full efforts to give her liberty to practice her own religion too and I will also adopt her religious practices so that we can have an equal share to our struggles too. This fight to make peace with our religious differences can settle only when we hold the patience to get through all the temporary discomfort, problems and social issues. This will re-instill faith in Indian wedding taboos people hold for Hindu-Muslim marriages.

It is all about Love

The legal issues and social tiffs are humongous for both me being a Hindu boy and the Muslim girl I wish to marry. It is not just about the verses between “Gita” and “Quran” or about Lord Krishna or Prophet Mohammad but it is much more beyond these predictable differences. The success rate of Hindu Muslim couples and their love stories are not very high. The soul reason is the excessive pressure of society and families. If the love is true, we can easily deal against all odds and be there for each other.

Need Your Support & Suggestions

I am an independent string man and I will help my lady to become independent and string too so that she can get more rational and take a stand for herself. The special marriage act and legal support will aid the process of getting hitched and our love for each other will ease the problems raised by society. All facts and statistics fail when it comes to marriage. I will do everything possible to make the marriage successful such that I will leave a positive answer to the question ‘can a Hindu boy marry a Muslim girl’. All I need is support from my well-wishers to go ahead with this major step to make my life more meaningful.

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Honesty is the Best Policy

Being honest with your parents is the best way you could do this. Indian mentality is not so open about homosexual weddings so it may take some time for your parents to understand so you have to be patient with them. Even you have to understand their situation. They may be shocked or even cry about it but you have to be strong and wait for them to understand you.

Be Firm on Your Decision

Emotional blackmail is a tool that we use on our parents and sometimes they use it on us. So when you tell your parents about your lesbian relationship story, you may face some emotional blackmail by your parents about how society would disapprove of your relationship and how relatives would make fun of you but you have to be firm about your decision. If you give in you will not only ruin your life but your partner’s too.

Take Your Partner with You

Introduce your partner too your parents. This shows your parents that you are not delusional or influenced by someone else but this is completely your decision. Same sex marriages are not supported in India so this decision of yours will not only change your life but your parents too. So you have to give time for them to understand and by meeting your partner they can see all the qualities you see in your partner.

Be Straightforward

If you are into the dilemma as to how do I tell my parents that I am a lesbian then the there is nothing you can do but to be straight forward with them. This removes all the doubts your parents might have. You may have to face some anger or dialogues such as ‘Nazar Lag Gayi Hai Isko Kisi Ki’ or ‘Kisi Chudail Ne Fasa Lia Isey’ but you have to make sure that they understand that this is who you are.

Make them Feel Your Happiness

All parents want their child to be happy. So you have to make them see that the only way you can be happy is by being with the girl you love. Lesbian wedding is what you desire. Who knows that when they are convinced you might get some lesbian relationship tips from your mother?

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Tell Him

The first step is to straight away; tell him. Stop thinking of indirect ways to tell your brother you are on periods.You should not be embarrassed in telling him about your periods. Instead just go ahead and say to him that “Brother my periods started.” or “Brother I am having a girl problem”.

Trust Him

He is your brother. You have shared all his secrets and told your all secrets with him. Now just because of typical Indian mentality you are feeling ashamed of telling your natural problem with him? That should not be the way. Brother Sister bonding is very special and is much stronger. So just trust this bonding and tell him.

Ask for His Help

Your periods have started. That is going to make a stain visible to all. Now no one carries a pad to movie theatre so what are you going to do? Call a female friend and wait for her which may take hours? Or simply ask your brother to help you. Do not hesitate and think how to tell about periods?

Keep Things Clear

Do not think of “Should I tell my brother I have my periods?” Just simply inform him that your periods started and you need him to get you a packet of pads. If he is an elder brother then he already knows about periods. If he is younger but capable of understanding then simply tell him.

Stay Free

Indian mindset about periods needs to be changed. The mindset which makes it a taboo for a girl to talk about her periods is simply ridiculous. This change has to be brought by the girls only. Girls have to be open minded about this. Periods are natural and they are the process that in future will make a woman into a mother.

Final Say

Brothers have to be supportive too. You should not fell ashamed or hesitate in helping your sister or even talking about it. Everyone should understand that periods is simply a biological process with no relations to Gods or any of the mis-beliefs that are being followed. Break free the rules that the society has set for girls. Only girls can do it.

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Can Indian Girl wear a Bikini on Beaches?

Weirdest thing is though that women from foreign lands can comfortably wear modern clothes like bikini in our country and are safe and on the same beach if Indian girls roam in bikinis they face molestation or verbal abuse.

If some known watches me (Kisi Janne wale ne Dekh lia toh)?

The biggest concern for any girl is that what if someone who knows her sees her like that? Thanks to Indian mentality girls are more concerned about relatives or neighbors than about their own family. All that gossip they spread around, the judgments they pass over you and when all that reaches your family in completely twisted way, nothing can be worse.

Backwardness

Many Indians are still uneducated. So in the name of Indian rituals and traditions they still follow many misbeliefs. Biggest amongst them is that women should always be covered. They still believe in pallu system. Females should even cover their faces and in front of these people the talk about bikinis is like giving them a heart attack.

Eve Teasing

One of the most common of problems in India that women face is eve teasing. Indian girls on beaches wearing bikinis already know this very well. Constant staring, being followed, vulgar comments, deliberately trying to make any physical contact are just few amongst the line of horrors. Any girl would want to avoid that. Eve teasing still exists because half the girls just ignore it and the few who dare to answer back many a time find no support. Instead people blame them for wearing such clothes.

Judgmental Thinking

People who have nothing better to do will go around passing their judgments on others. When someone tries to fight back they are said to be showing feminism. When Indian girls wearing bikinis are seen they are directly considered prostitutes. It is directly assumed that they are doing this to show off their bodies to men and they are in desperate need of attention.

Figure

The biggest stereotype is that only women with good figure can wear bikinis. Many of healthy girls are just thinking “Can I wear a bikini on Indian beaches?” Women from different countries are comfortable in wearing bikinis no matter their size. While here in India figure is what decides whether or not you should wear a bikini and not the person’s choice.

“Women it is your body, so only you can decide what do you want to wear? So is it right to wear a bikini on beaches in India is a question that only you can answer.”

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